When Plans Fail: What Does It Really Take for Families to Flourish Anyway? With Jennifer Hansen
Life as a parent often comes with expectations about how things should look: a happy marriage, thriving kids, personal success, and a balanced household. But what happens when your carefully crafted plan takes an unexpected turn? What if your best-laid hopes seem to unravel, leaving you exhausted and questioning if fulfillment is even possible?
If this feels familiar, you are not alone. Many parents find themselves in this perplexing space—doing everything “right” yet feeling unfulfilled and overwhelmed. Today’s reflection is inspired by a candid and heartfelt conversation with Jennifer Hanson, a passionate mindpower coach, wife, and mother of six who has navigated profound family challenges. Jennifer’s story offers wise encouragement and practical insights on how to find personal and family wellness even when life feels derailed.
Embracing the Unplanned: The Reality of Setbacks
Jennifer’s story begins with a moment every parent dreads—an emergency that shakes the foundations of family life. Early in the year, Jennifer received a phone call that her husband had been involved in a serious accident. The emotional weight of the uncertainty and fear cascaded through the family like a tidal wave. Miraculously, the situation resolved, but the aftermath was a season of heavy emotional strain.
What Jennifer learned in those moments is what many parents eventually realize: life’s greatest challenges often become the greatest teachers. As she reflects, “There’s a lot of emotional trauma to work through…I didn’t realize how much my supporting him through that was weighing on me until I hit the wall and I was just exhausted and emotionally drained.” It was a painful wake-up call to prioritize presence, connection, and spiritual strength with her family.
The concept of embracing challenges as opportunities for growth is echoed in a powerful quote by Bernice Johnson Reagon: This perspective invites us to lean into hardship, rather than shrink from it, and in doing so, uncover deeper wells of resilience within ourselves.
"Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you. They're supposed to help you discover who you are."
This perspective invites us to lean into hardship, rather than shrink from it, and in doing so, uncover deeper wells of resilience within ourselves.
Reframing Priorities: What Really Matters
After experiencing such a profound life event, Jennifer noticed a shift in her perspective. The experience peeled back layers of distraction and compelled her to focus more intentionally on what mattered most—family and presence.
Jennifer shares,
"Time with family, being intentional, and spending quality moments became the biggest priority because you just never know."
In the face of the world's noise and distraction, the ability to slow down and appreciate the present moment becomes a form of radical wellness.
This leads to the sometimes difficult but necessary art of saying no—to activities, ambitions, or external pressures—to make space for what truly fulfills. Jennifer thoughtfully discusses stepping back from a demanding career pursuit to create more availability for her children in their critical growth years.
"It made space, and you inow what happends when you make space? Something tends to fill it up."
This echoes an important lesson for mental wellness: fulfillment often grows from intentional boundaries, self-awareness, and flexible adjustments to life’s unfolding reality.
Navigating Parenting Challenges with Compassion and Creativity
Parenting is not a linear path. It can be especially overwhelming when children face unique health or developmental challenges. Jennifer’s experience with her daughter’s complex health journey, including night terrors, seizures, and autoimmune disease, highlights how parenting demands sometimes stretch us beyond our expectations.
"We felt strongly that she was so in tune with what she needs, even though she can't express it verbally."
Jennifer shares, describing how they moved away from traditional therapy and medication to a more holistic, inspired approach rooted in listening and observing.
This requires deep compassion for both the child and the parent. Jennifer confesses,
"She's my growth opportunity. She's the person who teaches me how to be playful, have fun, just live life."
Such moments remind us that fulfillment in parenting often comes from connection, acceptance, and the willingness to learn alongside our children.
Practicing self-compassion is crucial here. Jennifer acknowledges the tendency many parents have to be hard on themselves: “Take it easy on yourself. We are so hard on ourselves. We could all just relax a little bit and recognize the importance of rest and creative outlets to release stress.” She encourages parents to find small creative spaces—whether it’s coloring, walking, or even singing—to tap into their mental wellness.
The Power of Mindset and Spiritual Connection
A thread woven throughout Jennifer’s reflections is the transforming power of mindset. She speaks openly about the shift from feeling like a victim of circumstance to embracing the role of “captain of your life.” This means taking ownership of your reactions and choices without blame or shame, which opens the door for growth rather than stagnation.
Jennifer explains, This nurturing is often supported by faith or spiritual connection, a source of peace and perspective for many families. One client shared with Jennifer that nurturing his relationship with God was the foundation upon which all other wellness fell into place.
Whether through spirituality or other sources of meaning, the ability to step back and ask profound questions—“What if I do this? What if I don’t?”—can help reframe decisions and reduce overwhelm. This reflective questioning can clear mental clutter and allow parents to pursue what will genuinely bring joy and stability.
"Sometimes we get stuck because we don't practice thinking better. It's a skill that needs to be nurtured."
This nurturing is often supported by faith or spiritual connection, a source of peace and perspective for many families. One client shared with Jennifer that nurturing his relationship with God was the foundation upon which all other wellness fell into place.
Whether through spirituality or other sources of meaning, the ability to step back and ask profound questions—“What if I do this? What if I don’t?”—can help reframe decisions and reduce overwhelm. This reflective questioning can clear mental clutter and allow parents to pursue what will genuinely bring joy and stability.
Cultivating Positive Connection in Relationships
One of the most touching parts of Jennifer’s story is about the power of appreciation within close relationships. She recalls a moment in her marriage:
"My husband stopped and said, 'You are rocking it today. You're doing amazing. I appreciate this.' It took me out of my zone and made me feel light."
This simple act of recognition made her reflect on how much we all need to feel seen and valued, particularly from those closest to us. Parental stress and fatigue can sometimes cloud this need, but prioritizing kind, positive connections enriches the family’s mental health.
The "magic ratio" of positivity to negativity in relationships—often said to be 5 to 1—is a helpful reminder that simple acts of kindness, gratitude, and attentiveness can shift the emotional climate at home toward greater flourishing.
Finding Fulfillment Beyond Perfectionism
Jennifer’s journey encourages us to release unrealistic expectations and perfectionism in our pursuit of family wellness and personal fulfillment. Life can be messy, and plans don’t always unfold as we hope. Yet in this imperfection lies the potential for growth, connection, and deeper satisfaction.
Her advice is straightforward and grounded:
This invites parents to see fulfillment not as a distant goal, but as moments of presence, compassion, and joy woven through the everyday. It is in these moments that personal and family wellness is truly cultivated.
"Be greatful in the moment. Everything is a gift, so matter how hard. Take it easy on yourself. When we can do that, we can be more present and our life is going to be more full and, consequently, more successful."
This invites parents to see fulfillment not as a distant goal, but as moments of presence, compassion, and joy woven through the everyday. It is in these moments that personal and family wellness is truly cultivated.
Final Thoughts from Kendra Nielson
It is often said that life doesn’t follow a perfect script, yet as parents, we sometimes hold ourselves to impossible standards of what that script should be. Jennifer Hanson’s story reminds us that the path to fulfillment and wellness is rarely straight. It bends through trials, teaches through challenges, and opens us to unexpected opportunities for growth.
For those of us striving to live our best lives—balancing family, work, and personal goals—the answer may lie not in controlling every outcome, but in embracing the complexity with grace, intentionality, and self-compassion.
As a wife, mom, and licensed therapist, I’ve seen firsthand how small shifts in mindset, connection, and priorities can translate into lasting changes in mental health and family fulfillment. It’s a journey, not a destination, and there is profound beauty in showing up for it, even on the hard days.
Thank you for sharing this space with me. Here’s to more moments of presence, more compassion for ourselves, and more joy in the ordinary.
— Kendra Nielson, Fulfillment Therapy
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With Love,
Kendra
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