Negative Core Beliefs: Are Childhood Patterns Disrupting Your Marriage? Part 2 with Tarah & EJ Kerwin
Life can feel like a juggling act—work, love, parenting, and stress often collide. Tara and EJ Kerwin, founders of Relationship Renovation, turned their hardest season as parents into a blueprint for emotional safety and connection. Their message: even healthy relationships need continual care, compassion, and daily intention.
10 Ways You Can Deepen Connection and Compassion
Accept Struggle as Shared Reality. Every couple faces overwhelm; acknowledging it removes shame and opens the door to teamwork.
Build Emotional Safety First. See your partner through a compassionate lens by understanding how childhood trauma can shape reactions.
"Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity, and change." - B. Brown
Use “Micro Moments." Small gestures—eye contact, a touch, or kind words—create powerful trust over time.
Protect Sacred Time. Schedule daily or weekly check-ins to reconnect without distractions.
Honor Coping Differences. Some process internally, others out loud—learn what each others' are and respect them.
"When your partner can see all of you and still say, 'You are significant,' it's life-changing." - EJ Kerwin
Create a Cooling-Off Signal. Tools like a simple code word (“burnt toast”) help you pause before conflict escalates.
Practice Mindful Processing.Try methods like the RAIN technique (Recognize, Allow, Investigate, Nurture) to stay present through tough emotions.
Adopt a Growth Mindset. View conflict as a path to getting closer, not that you are failing in your relationship.
"Be patient for the wait - growth takes time, but always bears fruit." - Tara Kerwin
Lead with Curiosity Over Judgment. Ask what your partner’s emotions are communicating—connection follows understanding.
Choose Who You Want to Be. You can’t control others, but you can control yourself.
When life feels chaotic, love thrives not in grand gestures, but in these steady, intentional steps toward empathy and connection. Small efforts, done daily, transform families from the inside out.
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